The Waiting Game.....

Well, don't really know how to start. To cut a long story short, our close friend was diagnosed with cancer of the oesophagus late last year. He had chemo, and then on Wednesday went under an operation to remove the tumour, and part of his oesophagus and also have his stomach moved up. There were complications with his blood pressure going dangerously low (he stopped breathing twice), but up until Friday he appeared to be recovering well, and was even able to send some texts. We knew he was getting back to himself as he was his usual moody self in them!

Fast forward to Saturday however, and we were hit with a bolt from the blue.....He is now in intensive care on life-support with a severe infection of unknown origin. The hospital staff say that they have never seen any patient deteriorate so quickly. The next 48 hours will be critical. They are throwing every drug they can at him but he is not responding as yet.

We've become really close to this guy over the past two years or so. He now lives very near us and would come over nearly every day for coffee. I've probably spent nearly as much time with him as I have with my husband (I'm sure some of the neighbours must have thought we were having an affair as he was here that often!). He's pretty much the only person who, when he cooks a meal, will get the kids to eat it all! He spent Christmas with us. Hell, he even loaned us the money for this laptop!

We've had our ups and downs with him - we know his faults and he knows ours, but we have grown so fond of him. He is one of us. Never married or had kids of his own, so he's almost like a second father to our kids, and they love him. He said he would think of our daughter's smile to get him through his operation.

We had a 'just in case' conversation two days before his operation....just in case things went wrong. How I'm glad we did.

I'm praying, listening to spiritual music to try to feel more positive. I know it's 50/50 right now and I so hope it's the right 50, despite how bad things look. This is hitting us hard and we don't want to think yet about the worst case scenario.

And so we wait......